The only time Joe had anything close to a leg to stand on was when he was pissed about Beck showing up late to her surprise party. Beck didn't know about her party, but even if she didn't, it was a dick move not calling or texting when she still knew she had plans with Joe.
Joe: Beck, just tell me. Tell me. Tell me the truth, and we can get through anything. If you can't tell me then show me. Show me your phone.Beck: Are you serious right now?Joe: You told me yourself you have a hard time with good guys.Beck: What are you talking about?Joe: The hootsie stuff.Beck: OK, you wanna see my phone? Have at it, but if you do this, that means there is absolutely no trust between us, and if we don't have trust we have nothing. Do you trust me?
Yes, yes, the abilities that they do have and you know, I've even heard the term differently abled, right. There are abilities that a child with special needs has, kind of a superpower if you will, that maybe myself, I don't have as a typically developing person. And so there are, there's different abilities and diverse needs and special needs and all those things. Yeah. So I love that. Yeah. And well, one thing that I've learned, you know, I've been honest about it, I have some experience with relatives who have some special needs, but I've never been the parent of a child with special needs. But one thing I've learned, if you are a parent that's listening to this episode, here wanting to be an ally to other parents, parents that have a child with special needs. One thing that I've learned is this idea of person first language. So this is just a simple way in how you talk about things, how you talk about people. The idea is to talk about the person before you talk about a certain characteristic or trait. So you might say, the person using a wheelchair. You might say, a child with autism. But you talk about the person, and then that trait is a descriptor, it's not who they are, right. And so I've learned a little bit about how I can use person first language to be an ally for people. And also that I've been willing to take the feedback that some people don't prefer that term. Some people feel more empowered by not person first language. But person first language is a good place to start and then allowing people to teach you otherwise. So if you're here listening or watching and trying to be an ally to families who have a child with special needs, that's one thing I've learned. But Lori, I know you have much more first hand experience here. And so I guess I'm just curious, you've got all kinds of stories and experience, anything you'd be willing to share with people?
Well, I am thinking about some of the A words you used today. I want to touch on some of those A words. Okay. Mackenzie Johnson, you said it right off the bat. You talked about being an ally? All children need allies. And guess who the first allies are - their parents. And parents as the first educators of their children, they're the ones like you, Lori, who were able to spot that perhaps in addition to noticing your own child's temperament, that perhaps something more was going on, and that maybe you needed another diagnosis on top of what you might have thought. And so parents know what's going on in their family. And so I always think about the second A that I heard you talk about, and that was acommodatian. Accommodation. You know what? Special need or not, all of us from time to time may need an accommodation from somebody for something. True. And accommodation is nothing to be ashamed of and or anything that needs an apology for. 781b155fdc